Hello Sequoia Counseling community! I have seriously been missing in action from blogging the past few weeks (months?!) as things have become rather busy. Today I wanted to be a little more simple and less academic in my post. Here are two personal reflections or lessons that I would like to share at this time.
First, to not be afraid to get out of your comfort zone and let yourself go! At times I find being responsible and following the rules to be suffocating- especially these days you can feel confined in a box. I was in the mountains with my husband this past month and had the wonderful opportunity to do something new- sledding on a slope which you might imagine would be for skiers. It was a narrow hill with turns and inclines and definitely the possibility of falling and overturning. I thought about whether I would go- especially as I dislike falling and speed in recreation. The safe side of me thought I would just sit this one out. But the bolder side thought, “what if I miss out on something??!” We shared a sled and had so much fun and laughter during our 20 minute or so ride to the bottom. While I was so glad that I made the decision to ride, I was content to not go down a second time : ) What a fun and memorable time. I was glad for the decision to get out of my comfort zone- and was reminded again that this is a healthy and needed practice for me.
I think there are also times when we can feel broken, discouraged, scared, and overwhelmed- and may not be in the mood or have the opportunity to be adventurous or try new things. Can you relate?
My second reflection is to look to “tradition” at these times. As a family member and I talked about how difficult things have been, our conversation shifted to talking about family recipes and holiday traditions. Before I knew it, we were looking at my grandmother’s old handwritten recipe notebook (she passed away when I was in my early teens). This loved and much used treasure trove featured her best recipes on yellowed and Crisco-stained pages. For me, seeing this heirloom in her handwriting with details such as “beat at medium speed or 300 strokes by hand” made me remember her and I felt closer and comforted. Oddly this kind of remembering didn’t trigger feelings of sadness for me. Instead, I remembered traditions, such as her love of baking for others, that I adopted. As I remembered my grandmother and the love she gave through baking, I felt hopeful, connected, and inspired in spite of present circumstances.
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